THE HAPPINESS

THE WAY TO HAPPINESS

I love writing about happiness! In writing this post I also dusted off some philosophers like Aristotle, Platon .. even Nietzsche jaja??, And most famous figures of our time, as Dalai Lama, Gandhi or Blessed Teresa of Calcutta .. which I love and happiness concept is quite what we consider today away.

For example, I love when asked the Dalai Lama what surprised him most of humanity, he answered "The Man." Because you lose your health to earn money, then lose their money to restore their health and by thinking anxiously about the future, enjoy the present. So do not live neither the present nor the future. And live as if they had never die .... And die as if they had never lived.

Also a more social level, we can find us and we must argue that in many ways, contentment, which can be defined as the state of being satisfied, is closely associated with the concept of happiness. In Positive Psychology social scientists study what contributes to living ‘the good life’, or what people need to do in order to having increased positive moods, pleasures, optimistic attitudes and outlook and overall satisfaction with their life.

So does overall satisfaction with your life mean that you are happy? I think this can give you a breath of happiness but not true happiness, it's like when you are very thirsty and you take a coke with ice, and what you usually say is "can be happier" then you probably are, but is not to be happy.. Is all right?  

They all come to the conclusion that happiness is in ourselves, Ok! Fine but how to achieve it? 

The Key is GIVING!.   The world is filled with people who have suffered from one misfortune or another. The only thing that sets one apart from the rest is the desire and the attempt to help others. People who reach out beyond their pain, out into the world in a trusting way – they are the ones who make a difference. Nietzsche said, ‘He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how.’

Happiness is not found with the acquisition of stuff. Nor is it found in the list of past achievements. Personally I have changed my life radically, initially lived in the past, remember that great life .. I believe that to be happy we must look forward. It is the now and what we do with the now that makes all the difference.

If you wish to maintain a flow of happiness in your life, then make it your number one priority to be a giver. A giver of Love. A giver of your time. A giver of your talent. A giver of smiles. A giver of the word thank you. A giver of respect. Why Not? A giver of Money.


At every opportunity turn it into a moment to give.

I think parents have advantages in this, we are donating 100%, everyone here is look within and honestly think if you can give more to your husband and your children, with gladness because we want to be happy!

Even in your times of pain, choose to give. Selfish people, who hold on to everything that they have, live and die as lonely and bitter people.
Don’t delay living as you await the dreams arrival. Grab each moment and live it to the max

People who live unhappy lives have at some point decided to be unhappy. Don’t let it be you. Pour your life out and into the lives of others and when you are empty you will find that by some miraculous event, you will have been filled again so that you can go and give once more.

When Beltran died, my son, six months, was a great loss, but I saw the generosity of people, the support, the love of many. Also could not allow loss as something useless, whether we enjoyed what we had to make sense of what we lost. It makes sense right?

The end result will be the happiness that each and every one of us desires and deserves to have..

I hope you have not seemed too thick, by the way the next time, less deep! 


Now to be happy!
Lovely, 

Xox Ele

WHY I HAVE SO MANY CHILDREN?

                                                      I am very proud of my family.


The quick answer would be that "I have no idea."

I never thought I would have so many children, of course, I'm married in love and so still that I was bringing a baby every year.

I had the children God has given me and I have never avoided. I know how to avoid it naturally, as some people have told me that if I don't know what is a contraceptive method….Ufffffff…

I don't think there is a prototype of mother of Big Family, in my case, I loved my job, I was in a Multinational, as Headhunter  in Human Resources during 12 years, I love dining out, meet with friends, fix me, travel, all are things that many children are very difficult to combine..By now I've made ​​it!! but it is becoming more difficult ..

But I think you can find balance and worth the doing, I am currently waiting for my number 11 and  Sometimes I think I'm losing strength and that I can't but suddenly,  there comes a smile of my baby Teresa or a picture of my daughter Elena, or they are worries about how are you and how they can to help me…

This makes me think, that large families also have some advantages: 

• They learn to share more easily , they are generous by nature.

• They are more independent and autonomous.

• They developed the spirit of service from small .

Each older brother is responsible for the babys. 

• They have a high sense of tolerance , because they must learn to live with more people.

• Are less whimsical , they know their parents can not concentrate only on them.

• Are more sensitive to the needs and welfare of others , which are independent of his family or not.

• They value family and care about each member.

• They are proactive children , instead of lamenting deal in action.

• Friendly relations between the brothers created.

• They have a high degree of responsibility because they have run from small household chores and taking care of their siblings.

• They are prone to mature faster , they must face challenges and difficulties since the early ages .

• They are aware of the efforts made by their parents give them material goods and therefore tend to a lesser extent, misuse of resources ( money, energy , water, supplies, food , etc. . )

• They are children who are always accompanied and grow in a home environment .

• They have a high tolerance for frustration .

• Due to economic conditions and other circumstances , these families tend to be close to God and strengthen each other spiritually.

We've only gone once to Luna Park and Taroonga Zoo still don't know, maybe one day,  no hurry.

All this is very nice and it's true, but what about the opinion of people who don't Know you and talks on the street, sometimes they don't understand, others are friendly, the most phrases common are:

Are They all yours? or Don't have TV at home ?,  Will be the last one?
Almost every day I hear them, or will have their hands full all day ...?

Normally feel Funny about this questions and  I answer with a smile, until you one day gets bad….

One day I was in ALDI (Economic Supermarket with good quality, but you have to get your stuff to 1000 per hour in the trolley, pay and leave the box… Running, Running ….) and I had six of my children, one was crying for her Dummy, another one threw chips and I kept everything, poking MY head to see if any of my children came of 9 and 10 years to save me..… and after spending the entire queue, sweating and looking …. with the face of disapproval..
Sometimes, stinks is that constantly being on the defensive means you're ready to pounce on the next person who dares to speak to you. I nearly bit the head off of a lovely woman who only meant to congratulate me. "How lucky you are!" she said, sharing with me her infertility challenges in the Whole Foods line, her only child buckled sweetly in a shopping cart cover that was fitted carefully in her cart. "It took me over four years just to have her!"

After we talked a while and thought, It's true. My hands are definitely full. And you know what? So is my heart.

But the real answer is: God said children are a blessing, and like everything he says, it is 100% true. I love these children, young and old, and cannot imagine life without them. Each day I feel blessed to be married to Manuel Pavia and to share these blessings with him. My children are wonderful, witty, intelligent, funny, and a delight.. Although not Always.. Yes for me!!!

See you Soon!!!

Xox Ele

I lOVE CHRISTMAS

Merry Christmas!!! 

All we kept in our memory

Christmas memories of our childhood.

Sometimes we did not understand because it was so bright, so beautiful,

after we discovered that families

join and people are trying to be or, better these days,

it was a magical time;

was the coming of our dear Jesus,

reliving every year, hope and the desire to be better people.

Merry Christmas Eve  and think that we do not see

are also with us.

A even if it hard for us sometimes because we have lost some loved one, 

remember that we will see through that 25th of December was born Jesus!

Merry Christmas Everyone!! 

That you have a very special night!

Of all the Pavia family!!

xxELE

ADVENT SEASON

Advent begins today, are moments of hope, reflection and love ..

A very special and beautiful custom is to prepare a table centerpiece,  here are some examples.

             It seems very original addition to decorare a Christmas córner

                     

      Love it! Easy to make and also a touch Vintage..This is for my home

                     

                                   Nice and very typical ..           

                      
                           
                         Simple and orginal, I like less is more ..

Advent Calendars another nice tradition,  in my house each child makes a sacrifice on the day and at night tells us, and is a gift to Jesus at his birth, and we write it keeping in each pack, so until the 25th of December.

                         
  I love it, but not very useful in my case, the bottles of candle would last three living minutes ..

                            Easy and original, but maybe tweezers …

This is for Me….

So we getting ready for Christmas

That Jesus will be born, prepare your arrival, with more peace, love and generosity starting with our homes and extending what we can ..

Lovely, Ele Xox

THE BEST SHOES IN THE WORLD

We Talk today about the five most prestigious designers in the Fashion world.

5. Brian Atwood shoes on the red carpet to exhaustion.

And something is because of this designer shoes are bold American, sexies, have great style, simply beautiful.

4. Two words perfectly define the shoes of the late British designer, Alexander McQueen: extravagant and transgressive. In fact, he said the "rebel child" of fashion.

3. Want shoes with femininity, luxury and glamor? Then go for a few of Malay, Jimmy Choo, the designer of exquisite handmade shoes.

2. If you love fashion, especially shoes you're a fan, you probably know what "Manolos" so they are not in the fashion world to Manolo Blahnik shoes, perhaps the most prestigious women's footwear designers.

His creations are famous for the great design work behind them look like works of art, rather than shoe-use patterns and many colors, luxurious details and striking edge stilettos.

Los Manolos had a major role in Sex and the City, as the character Carrie Bradshaw, Sarah Jessica Parker, was a fan of theM... Who not?

1. How could it be otherwise! The French Christian Louboutin leads the ranking of the top designers of shoes.

And, in addition to beautiful, versatile and always original details. The native parisian designer has become an icon, his designs capturing the eye, and hearts, of women everywhere.

Louboutin designed shoes for Barbie's 50th birthday 

However, it wasn't until 1992 that Louboutin's dazzling designs incorporated the shiny, red-lacquered soles that have become his signature.  This happened by accident as he felt the shoes lacked energy so he applied an employees red nail varnish to the sole of the shoe.  It was such a success that it became a permanent fixture.

From delicate sandals and ballerinas up with a heel stilettos and platforms fine leather, with studs and animal prints, Christian Louboutin shoes are the dream of every woman.

Louboutin launched his own champagne in partnership with champagne house Piper Heidsieck.  To commemorate, they released a limited edition Le Rituel box set.  The ritual, dating back to the 1880's, is emblematic of Europe at it's peak ~ drinking from the shoe of a woman.  The crystal heel stiletto designed by Louboutin has the signature red sole. 

Le Rituel

Christian Louboutin offers a luxurious line of handbags as well

Just when you think it could not get any better, CL collaborated with Marchesa.  How divine are these? 

Which design has most captured your heart?

See you Soon, XOX Ele

HOW TO SUVIVE THE SUPERMARKET WITH THE KIDS!!

                                            My Little girl.. Perfect photo and Perfect Shop

When I get married I loved going the small stores Gourmets, and I did not have to buy diapers, wipes, toilet paper in bulk .. yeah, that kind of thing now go to COSCO Supermarket. (some friends love it)

                                     Happy Times without Ipod, Ipad, etc..


In that supermarket  Gourmets the fruit and vegetables was fantastic and employees treated you like a Queen...

But...Now in Aldi is another thing, which is what you think when you have to throw things in the trolley and then put it in the bags .. Double work! finally, the quality and the price worthwhile.

Anyway all this changes as you have children, not better or worse, not thinking but change!

                             I can't belive it.. but.. sometime Happen..

Currently, in my case has turned a challenge, I have four children under five years and another on the way, and buying is a constant battle of obstacles.

The first is to look for the Trolley, and in those tiny seats, trying to put the feet that never want to get, even worse is when the kids want to be where you have to put everything or will hang on the sides.

Once installed in the car, we started buying list in hand, continually enduring "I want this" I want the other "we have survived and all children around .. NOOOOOO missing one, run, calling his name and looks at all the supermarket, always the same ... finally appears ..
At the checkout, you start to see 100 articles you had not gotten you at any time, go away ...

Finally give them a lollipop to everyone, because we are all well, that blackmails mother occasionally to children in times of stress .., is wrong, but it is inevitable .. gradually and with peace!

We go with the trolley as we can, tried the straight line, and suddenly one of those gadgets that you try to avoid, the carrousel, cute when you have time and you go with your dear husband, but when you're in a hurry, exhausted and the baby wants eat and sleep .. these beautiful carrousels are not so ... posibble running as much advance .. "Tomorrow, really my darling, tomorrow"

I got to the car, and another adventure leave the purchase, putting children, leave the trolley in its row, and start your car ...Ufff  TEST PASSED!, Hoping that you are not forgetting anything to not have to go back!


Well, we have explained a routine purchase with the kids, but it's also funny how you are helping as they grow, every time they ask for less stuff and everything is fleeting, grow and even this would miss.

In conclusion, be happy with what you have and patience, in the past always see them happy .. don't you think?

But....  I prefer shopping for clothes and alone! But for me.. is a dream.. Maybe sometime or maybe not... 

Lovely,

Ele xox